Sometimes I feel trapped by the things I cannot do because of my disabilities. Then I have to remind myself that I have agency. I did not choose my disabilities but I am choosing the life I want to live with my disabilities.
I choose not to make myself ill through going beyond my limitations.
I choose to care for myself.
I choose to have compassion with myself so that I am able to have compassion with others.
I choose self expression.
I choose being present and connected.
I choose to value myself.
I choose to make accommodations.
I cannot control everything, but to a degree I can choose to create a life that is adapted to my disabled needs. And I choose an accessible life.
I like to sleep with a plushie
I become overwhelmed by loud fans
I get tired when you change my plans
I get frustrated when I have to use a new computer
I sometimes communicate through writing instead of speaking
I am calmed by tight squeezes from my boyfriend
You call me childish, dependent, exaggerating
I travelled alone on an airplane for the first time when I was 6
I made the independent decision to become a vegetarian when I was 8
I took complete responsibility for my studies at the age of 13
I took on economic responsibility for another person when I was 17
I am studying at one of the top universities in the world.
Do you call me childish, dependent, exaggerating?
You become uncomfortable when others look different from you
You care so much about being accepted that you bend who you are to fit in
You become frustrated when others don’t use oral communication
You have trouble making a plan and sticking to it
You call Me childish, dependent, exaggerating
I am no more dependent than you. The world just doesn’t accommodate my dependence like it does yours.